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How Setting Personal Boundaries is Changing My Life!
A lack on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.
“Unspoken boundaries often cause frustration. What is one area of your life where you would benefit from having clearer boundaries, but haven’t voiced them yet?” — James Clear
“Hello, my name is Bill, and I am a chronic people pleaser!”
This is not a good thing!
If you are as well, you’ll know what I mean.
You’ll end up like me … accommodating, helping others without getting too much in return, feeling underappreciated, and thinking that someday it’ll all turn around*.
Here’s what I learned about setting strong, personal boundaries and how it changed everything.
Was it uncomfortable? Yes. Mostly to myself. Partly to others.
Warning: Once you start, you cannot go back!
Many of the issues weren’t mine. They were my reaction to others.
That sounds contradictory!
I was reacting to the insecurities of others, the weaknesses and faults of others.
If someone blurted out: “F@ck You!” for something they misheard, that is on them. That is their insecurity…
